Don't Let them Define You

In Frame: Shubhashini, Abhyarthana, Janice, Kira, Priyanka P, Priyanka A, Sheril,
Dipali, Komal, Dhara, Jaivika, Anandpyari, Mihika, Ruchie, Swati, Dhruva, Sigma, Sneha

No, you do not qualify in the standards of how and what the society describes and means beautiful.

Some say it’s colour. Some say it’s figure. Some say it’s height. And for some, it’s flawless skin or hair. Some say getting married, others say lasting marriage, some say being a mother is beautiful. Guess what you are none of the above mentioned is true. Absolutely none of them. And till today it did not seem to be a problem because you were good at other things like being talented, independent, being courageous and kind most of all having a heart! Well, at least that’s what your parents said to look for in everyone else— to look for kindness, love, compassion and forgiveness.

Until today when an Advertisement made you want to question about yourself— your looks and your confidence. When a TV actress you adored makes her face plastic. When neighbour aunty unnecessarily asked you to apply besan and dahi on our face. When the society aunties commented on your complexion, in that marriage you attended. When the crush you had looked past you only to see your best friend. When you couldn't fit in the dress that someone gifted you. When you overheard someone say behind your back that she is 40 and still single, the problem is definitely in her.

And today for that semi moment you felt that Everything you built for yourself, everything you were made to believe by your parents seemed like a lie. The society doesn’t see anybody for their heart or for the talent they have. It looks at you with its judgemental eyes of not being fair enough especially when your mom is on the brighter tone. It looks at you for not being tall enough. For not having a Korean skin (flawless) or a great Caucasian hair. It looks at you for not being the standard size which as per them is small-medium. It called you names like Kali, Patli Parmar, machis ki teeli, moti bhes, bulldozer, kuposhit, hapshi, sawli, kajal jaisi, Bitch divorcee, independent whore, corporate slut. It looks at you with a disgust for the love handles you have. It even mocks at you for being flat and having curves. It judges you if you don't want to get married. It judges you if your marriage doesn’t work. It judges you if you don’t want to have kids. Oh, the list goes on. But you know what? They are wrong.

To be honest, This society judges everyone for just not being enough. And guess what— this has happened once a lifetime with everyone, even if you did not want to be a part of this circus.

We all know this is wrong. Still somehow we a part of this.

The notion about perfect beauty that is conditioned in us, is bullshit. Because society projects it as an unattainable perfection which in reality is nothing. Even the moon that known for its beauty is flawed. And That’s how it is supposed to be.

This thinking is contagious and can brainwash you in thinking you are not good enough.

But you know what? You are good enough. You deserve someone who appreciates you. You deserve someone who loves and adores you for who you are.

Plus size or petite you are gorgeous. Dusky or fair you are beautiful. Long hair, chopped hair or bald you are wonderful. Married or unmarried you are adorable. You are the sunshine. You are the rain. You are beautiful with that amazing brain. You're the unicorn and fiercely flame. You are everything that can't be tamed. You are unstoppable. You are extricating with your thoughts. You are liberating with your effort of being the best version of you in all walks of life. You are everything that you would want to be. You are just not what society wants. But you are everything this world needs. And the need is always bigger and more important than want. Don't make society sound like it is the world. Because it is not. Remember that.

P.S: Dear society, Please keep your unacceptable and unwelcomed comments in your pocket. Also please don’t forget to take your nose while leaving— found it poking in our life!